In my 31 years I’ve learned something about people. We are all liars. I know, that’s a bit dramatic, but we are dramatic creatures. I’m sure you can cite exceptions amongst family, friends or yourselves, but on the whole we are optimists. Things will be better next year: more money, better jobs, faster cars, less weight, etc. We lie to ourselves and those around us because we really, really want things to get better.
Being Honest
I’ve heard a saying that we are only honest twice in our lives: When we’re coming into the world and when we’re going out. In our infancy we don’t know how to be anything but real. When we’re headed out we don’t have time for anything fake.
Companies
Corporations are people, right? Besides being treated so legally, I think they have a common attribute in their honesty. Companies are only really honest with you twice: When you are being hired and when you are being let go.
“But Cory” you say, “companies are always blowing sunshine up your ass when they hire you!” I agree. But I didn’t say what they were being honest about yet.
You!
Don’t think you are getting off easy. You have a role in this too. You aren’t being entirely honest either.
For Trill
When you are interviewing and when a company is interviewing you, you are both being honest about what you want things to be. You are looking to grow, make more money, get better perks and make more of a difference. The company is looking to grow, change and absorb your talents. Here’s the catch though: You might suck and so might the company!
But that’s ok! This is a beautiful new time. We can change together.
On the other hand, the gloves come off when you depart. Companies show their true character when letting people go. Was there a severance package? Did they talk to you about the things you did wrong and work with you? Did you even do anything wrong?
When you turned in notice, did you still work hard? Did you try and set up a solid transition? Did you offer a low rate for continued help? Did you steal office supplies?
Keep It 100
Sure, sometimes there are unique circumstances. Maybe you made a big mistake and lost the company money or your boss tried to get to know you in the biblical sense after the Christmas party. But most of the time it’s just run-of-the-mill shit. You have this opportunity to leave each other in a good place. Be honest.
Confession
I’ve changed jobs twice this year. The first time I wasn’t honest. I didn’t air my grievances before deciding it wasn’t going to help. Maybe it wouldn’t have, but I could’ve spoken my mind and at least walked away knowing I was honest.
The second time I was honest. I had no beef, I just got a great offer. The folks I worked with tried really hard to meet me, and they came at the situation honestly. As a result I still do some side work for them that makes me a little change and keeps them humming along for an easy transition.
Honestly, honesty is hard. But it’s worth the effort.